Hari ini saya ingin berkongsi satu komen yang telah diberikan oleh pengunjung blog saya berkenaan cara meningkatkan keyakinan diri. Berikut adalah komen beliau..

salam….
sy selalu kurang keyakinan diri ketika berhadapan dengan orang ramai atau pun rakan2….terutama ketika ingin membuat presentation di hadapan kelas….mula2 sy rasa yakin tetapi ketika berhadapn dengan rakan2 dan lecterer sy mula rasa takut sampai suara sy x keluar…..puas sy cuba menguatkn suara tetapi x boleh jg..ini membuatkan sy berasa sangat malu ketika berhadapan dengan kawan2…..kadang2 sy rasa macam nk berhenti belajar sebab sy x ade keyakinan diri,tetapi sy teringatkan mak ngan ayah itu yang bagi semangat kat sy untuk terus belajar….sy juga ade cube berbagai tips untuk meningkatkan keyakinan diri, tetapi tetap tidak boleh….sy harap anda dapat membantu sy ………

Sebelum saya mengulas dengan lebih lanjut, ingin saya tekankan bahawa saya bukanlah seorang pakar di dalam bidang ini. Saya hanyalah seorang insan biasa yang berminat dengan perkara ini memandangkan dulunya saya juga mempunyai self-esteem yang rendah.

Sebagai manusia biasa, kadang kala saya juga merasa tidak yakin dengan diri sendiri. Namun begitu, berdasarkan pembacaan dan pemerhatian saya keyakinan diri bukanlah sesuatu yang semula jadi sebaliknya ia boleh dipupuk dan diperkembangkan. Untuk tidak menghampakan pengunjung ini, hari ini saya akan berkongsi 2 tips yang mungkin boleh membantu beliau dan rakan2 lain untuk meningkatkan keyakinan diri.

1. Memakai pakaian yang sopan, bersih dan kemas.

Salah satu cara untuk membina keyakinan diri adalah dengan memakai pakaian yang selesa dan kemas. Apabila penampilan kita baik, kita akan merasa lebih yakin. Sebab itulah kebanyakan orang yang terlibat di dalam bisnes atau kerja yang memerlukannya untuk berurusan dengan orang ramai akan menyediakan budget khusus untuk membeli pakaian yang sesuai bagi menjaga penampilan diri.

Saya bukan mengesyorkan anda membeli pakaian berjenama di luar kemampuan anda, sebaliknya pilih pakaian yang sesuai dengan budget anda. Anda juga boleh menyediakan beberapa helai baju khas yang boleh digunakan pada hari-hari yang penting contohnya hari membuat presentation dan sebagainya. Pemilihan sandal/kasut juga penting. Kadangkala kasut yang tidak sesuai akan membuatkan kita berasa janggal dan tidak selesa.

Pendek kata, seciput manapun budget anda, sediakan satu persalinan baju dan kasut yang kemas bagi membantu meningkatkan keyakinan diri anda.

2. Ingatlah Bahawa Setiap Orang Mempunyai Masalah

Tips kedua ini jika difahami betul2 pasti akan menjadikan anda seorang yang sangat berkeyakinan tinggi.

Analoginya begini.. setiap manusia mempunyai masalah dan setiap manusia menghabiskan hampir keseluruhan masa mereka untuk memikirkan tentang diri dan masalah mereka.

Jadi, kalaupun anda tidak membuat presentation dengan baik atau membuat sebarang kesalahan semasa presentation, percayalah bahawa orang lain tidak akan memikirkan sangat tentang hal ini. Ini kerana, mereka sibuk memikirkan tentang diri dan masalah mereka.

Kalaupun mereka bercakap di belakang dan menghina/mengutuk anda ia hanyalah untuk tempoh waktu yang singkat.

Percaya atau tidak, tips inilah yang digunakan oleh semua orang yang terkenal di seluruh dunia apabila diri mereka menjadi bahan gossip. Apa yang mereka lakukan hanyalah bertenang dan menunggu sehingga semua orang selesai memperkatakan tentang diri mereka.

Ini kerana, mereka tahu bahawa orang lain juga mempunyai masalah peribadi dan tidak akan menghabiskan sepanjang masa untuk memperkatakan tentang diri mereka. Hasilnya? Orang-orang yang terkenal ini tidak tertekan dan mampu meneruskan hidup dan kerjaya mereka seperti biasa.

Kalau dulu saya agak memandang negatif dengan golongan artis dan selebriti, tetapi setelah menyedari tentang perkara ini, saya mula menghormati mereka. Ini kerana, setiap artis pasti akan dilanda gossip dan hanya orang yang berjiwa besar sahaja mampu melalui perkara ini dan terus bertahan.

Saya harap 2 tips ini dapat dipraktikkan bagi membantu anda menjadi lebih yakin dengan diri sendiri. Jika anda rasa tips ini membantu, sila berikan feedback anda di bahagian komen..

Jika anak dibesarkan dengan celaan,
Ia akan belajar memaki.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan permusuhan,
Ia akan belajar berkelahi.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan cemuhan,
Ia akan belajar rendah diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan penghinaan,
Ia akan belajar menyesali diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan toleransi,
Ia akan belajar menahan diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan dorongan,
Ia akan belajar menghargai.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan sebaik-baiknya perlakuan,
Ia akan belajar keadilan.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan rasa aman,
Ia akan belajar menaruh kepercayaan.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan dukungan,
Ia akan belajar menyenangi dirinya.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan kasih sayang dan persahabatan,
Ia akan belajar menemukan cinta.

Today my hubby was upset and pissed off with one of his work colleague who has said something very rude and hurt his feeling. No, he is not a sensitive man but we all know that sometimes “Words are sharper than the sword”.

I suddenly remember an article that I’ve read before about a banana game that explains how hatred will effect our lives and share the story with him to make him feel better. After listening to the story, he calmed down and I start to think that this story is one worth sharing..

Here the story goes..

Maryam, guru kelas Tadika menganjurkan satu permainan yang sungguh menarik untuk murid-muridnya. Setiap murid diminta membawa beg plastik yang berisi pisang yang tertulis nama orang yang paling mereka benci ke kelas pada esok hari. Jadi, jumlah pisang yang perlu dibawa bergantung kepada jumlah orang yang dibenci.

Keesokan harinya, setiap murid membawa beg plastik berisi pisang masing-masing. Ada yang membawa tiga biji, ada juga lima biji dan paling banyak lapan biji. Semuanya sudah ditulis nama orang yang paling mereka benci.

“Sekarang simpan pisang tu. Jangan lupa bawa ke mana sahaja kamu pergi selama seminggu. Inilah permainannya. Selepas seminggu, kita akan tahu keputusannya” beritahu Cikgu Maryam.Kanak-kanak tersebut menyimpan pisang masing-masing di dalam beg.

Hari demi hari berlalu, pisang tersebut mula berbintik-bintik dan akhirnya menjadi busuk . Kanak-kanak itu mula merungutdan marah. Mereka tidak menyukai permainan itu lagi kerana selain beg berat, badan berbau busuk. Ada yang menangis, enggan meneruskan permainan.

Seminggu berlalu, pagi-pagi lagi murid-murid Maryam sudah bersorak. Permainan sudah tamat. Tidak ada lagi beban dan bau busuk yang perlu dibawa.

“Okey semua, apa rasanya bawa pisang dalam beg ke sana ke mari selama seminggu?” tanya Cikgu Maryam.

Semuanya serentak mengatakan mereka benci permainan itu. Mereka hilang kawan, sering diejek dan terpinggir. Lebih teruk lagi, terpaksa tidur, makan, mandi, bermain dan menonton TV dengan bau busuk.

“Itulah sebenarnya yang berlaku kalau kita simpan perasaan benci pada orang lain dalam hati. Bau busuk kebencian itu akan mencemari hati dan kita akan membawanya ke mana saja kita pergi. Jika kamu sendiri tidak boleh tahan dengan bau pisang busuk hanya untuk seminggu, cuba bayangkan apa akan jadi kalau kamu simpan kebencian sepanjang hidup kamu” beritahu Cikgu Maryam.

Maryam mengingatkan anak muridnya supaya membuang jauh-jauh perasaan benci daripada membebani hidup. Kemaafan adalah yang terbaik. Menyayangi lebih baik daripada membenci…!

This morning as I was preparing breakfast for my hubby and Iqbal, I suddenly remembered about my job applications to IPTs across Malaysia and wondered what will happen  if I was accepted into any of them.

Even though I really hope to become an entrepreneurship lecturer, getting a job means that I will be separated with my hubby for a while. And even though he is a teacher and he can request for transfer, it will surely take some time. That means I need to adjust living without him and I just don’t know how am I gonna cope.

Basically we never live separately since our marriage and whenever he went outstation (when he was working as an engineer before), I felt so miserable. In fact, my kids are very close to their father and the first thing Adi asks in the morning is, “Umi, Abah mana?” (since my hubby goes to work at 7 and Adi wakes up a bit late).

With two kids in school and one coming out in April, the best scenario is for me to do my PhD in UTM and get a scholarship or attach myself to a university that will grant me study leave until I finished my PhD. In the mean time my husband can start applying for transfer and after 3 years we can settle down happily ever after…

Hahaha… I know that would be nice. But then, being a grown up that knows things won’t go as we want and plan, I know that the scenario will turn out to be slightly or very different from what i wish.

So what do I do?

Inspired by this song “Que sera sera… whatever will be will be.. the future’s not us to see.. que sera sera..”, I choose to  enjoy and cherish every moment that we’re living together under one roof and be the best wife so that I won’t regret anything in case we live separately later.

This morning, my eldest sister, Kak Long called me around 7am and asked me to join her for breakfast. Even though I was feeling so sleepy since the night before I slept at almost 4am, I thought it would a good idea since I don’t have any plan for the day. And since she is also a good advisor, I also can ask for her opinion regarding my career and study plan.

She came pick me up around 9 and first we went to Pasar Taman Universiti. She ate Fried Mee Hoon and I had Soto. After that we went to MPH at Jusco Tmn U because she wanted to buy some books.

As I mentioned in my previous posts about home tuition, my sister can be considered as a successful home tuition teacher because she earns more than RM4000 per month and can afford to buy Toyota Wish with her income as a home tuition teacher.

In fact she told me that she has to decline a lot of job offer because she only want to teach in the afternoon and some nights and don’t want to teach in the morning to spend quality time with her youngest child. Isn’t it great?

For me, this is a very good example of a resourceful home maker. Even though she was never employed as a teacher before but she uses her experience of teaching her kids and my younger siblings as a tool to sell her services. And boy, she was good at it!

In fact, now she helps my other siblings by giving them teaching job opportunities for extra income. In fact, she also offered some jobs for me but I have to refuse since my health condition is not very good.

I hope this post can be an inspiration for those of you who have the passion in teaching but doesn’t have the opportunity to do so. Instead of looking for job, promote yourself and let the job come looking for you..

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Yesterday Adi told me that his penis has superficial power because it can become large and small simply by touching it. As a mother I can’t help loughing out loud and at the same time feel relieved because I know that he is a normal boy. Hahaha…

Sorry if this entry is a bit unexpected but I just want to jot this down somewhere to have a very good laugh in the future.

In my previous post, I mentioned that last week I had sought advice from my lecturers and have followed all their advices including meeting with Dr Kamariah to know more about PhD.

This week I have spent hours after hours googling to find out my chances of becoming a lecturer with Masters Degree and Bachelors Degree from different field and the fact that my Bachelors Degree’s CGPA is less than 3 pointer. I even call a few Head of Departments and Deans to get their perspective on this issue.

The conclusion is, I maybe lucky and could get a job as an Entrepreneurship lecturer since Entrepreneurship Course is still quite new in Malaysia and there are not many lecturers in this area. So, some of the IPTs might be interested in a candidate that has Masters in Entrepreneurship even though his Degree is in totally different field.

But on the other hand, I may not get the job because some of the HOD is afraid that I can only teach limited subject in Entrepreneurship and cannot teach related subject such as Marketing, Business, Management and etc since I don’t have enough academic exposure in these areas.

Due to this, they advice me to consider taking up PhD in Entrepreneurship. This way, I will stand a better chance because in order to get my PhD I will do a lot of research that will eventually help me to master other areas related to entrepreneurship. So, later on I can teach more subjects and supervise undergraduates from related scope as well.

After discussing this issue with my dear husband, my father and my sister who are all very supportive and really encourage me to join the academic line, I made up my mind to pursue my PhD as soon as possible (which is in June 2010).

Even though I’m also actively looking and applying for lecturer’s position, I don’t want to waste my time hoping and waiting for my luck. This is because most IPTs will take 3-6 months to review my applications and I will only know the results by end of 2010.

I’m making this decision because I don’t want to solely rely on my luck and become more proactive in pursuing my dream.

In case I got any job offer before starting my PhD, I take it as a sign from Allah for me to postpone my studies. As of now, I am surrendering myself to Allah’s fate and just take whatever He plans for me because I believe that His plan is the best.

In order to support myself during my study, I will apply for Skim Latihan Akademik Bumiputera (SLAB). And since SLAB requires the candidate to send in the research proposal and offer letter from university, I plan to settle everything before April.

In fact, even if I don’t get any scholarship for my PhD, I will still carry on and support myself  with my Unit Trust business like I did during my Masters Degree.

From what I’ve read the PhD journey can be very tough, but after going through a lot of ‘bad experiences’ and full support from my beloved hubby and my family, I believe I have the courage to face anything life has to offer.

Starting today, I will start working on my research proposal and paperwork to start my PhD.

Special message to my beloved husband : Thank you for your support in all my business activities and whatever decision I made regarding my career with all it’s ups and downs. I really love you for that. Do know that I appreciate your patience and your faith in me and I’ll do my best to make you proud.

These past few days I wasn’t feeling very well and I still haven’t completed the task I intended to settle on Monday. So I am writing this post to remind myself to settle everything ASAP.

My to do list for this week :

a. Post application to UiTM Shah Alam - Done! (3/3/10)

b. Post application to UMK - Done! (3/3/10)

c. Post application to UniMap

d. Email application to MUST - Done! (3/3/10)

e. Update resume in JenJobs.com to apply for Olympia College.

f. Call and meet Dr Rohana to discuss about my PhD project.

g. Post application to UiTM Pahang - Done! (3/3/10)

h. Post applicaation to MMU.

i. Contact UBN to know more about any job opening.

Just want to share a video of disable children singing the song Que Sera Sera (Whatever Will Be, Will Be) as a reminder to myself not to think too much of the future because whatever will be, will be (As a muslim, believing in Qada’ & Qadar).

But then, I will still do my best to fulfill my desire to become an academician.

Enjoy the video!